One of the most common questions I am asked as a sex coach: How do I bring up the subject of sex with my partner? How do I talk to my partner about sex? First, you don't want to hurt their feelings or make them feel rejected. Second you may not know exactly what to say. Third, maybe it's not all bad and you just want to spice it up, you don't want them to think something is wrong....all theses thoughts and more! Many individuals desire to enhance their pleasure in life but often find it challenging to initiate a conversation with their partner about it. Discussing something as personal and vulnerable as sexuality can be intimidating. Here are some effective ways to kickstart a conversation about spicing up your relationship with your partner.