Why is Sex Coaching Important?

by Stacie Ysidro

Part of being human involves our sexuality.

Sex coaching or erotic coaching is a great method to explore your values, ideas, and beliefs around sexuality in a safe, non-judgmental space.

Throughout history, sexuality has been used to control people. We have been told who you can express sexuality with, as well as when, why, and how you can express it.

The World Health Organization acknowledges basic sexual rights as human rights, with the baseline for healthy sexual expression being that it is consensual between two people.

Our culture is founded on Puritanical values. In my opinion, guilt and shame should not be part of our sexuality. Over time, we have slowly begun to move away from these restrictive in condemning ideals. Unfortunately, part of our society still adheres to these.

Sexuality can be experienced in a variety of ways. We can express our sexual energy for the purpose of love and emotion, for physically procreating, for a meeting of minds/intellectual sexual stimulation, and for spirituality through the merging of our divine energy. As long as sexual expression is between two consenting adults and free from coercion, all will be well.

Culture, religion/spirituality, socioeconomic conditions, gender, race, sexual orientation, and family; these, combined with our personal experience and natural disposition, create our perspective on sexuality. There is so much misinformation, judgment, shame, and guilt around sexual expression that it often interferes with our sexual relationships.

For example, men and women are told different sexual stories. Men are usually taught to exaggerate their sexual conquests and to define their masculinity by their sexual aggression. Women are often told to downplay their sexuality and to feel guilty about sexual forwardness. Because these are exact opposites, communication issues understandably arise around sexuality in relationships.

We all have different morals values and standards regarding sexuality, and ultimately we get to decide what is best for us.

There are not many places you can go for accurate sexual health and sexual expression information. Part of my mission and passion is helping people to embrace, accept, and express their ideal sexual self in the healthiest way possible.

If you are in a place in your life where you are not connected to your sexual energy or are feeling dissatisfied with your intimate relationships, it may be time to look within and reach out to increase your “erotic IQ.”

Getting to know our sexual self, we then have more tolerance and empathy for others. When we learn to understand and accept ourselves and other completely, we can then experience an enlivening and liberating journey.