How To Have Sober Sex: Conscious, Intimate Sex

I put my high heels on, make my favorite tea, and break out my dark chocolate. I light some candles and incense. My lover is on the way! 

I feel my body alive with anticipation there is a knock at the door. He is here! I open the door to a beautiful man, strong and sexy. We embrace and passionately kiss. “Where do you want to play today,” he asks. Energy shoots through my body as I present the massage table set up in my living room. We continue to kiss and slowly remove each other’s clothes. He lays me down and starts to caress my body. I feel his presence and desire. My body surrenders to his touch and I feel my arousal continue to build…Totally sober, conscious, and present. 

That’s how I experience my sex life today, but it wasn’t always that way.

To feel confident, loosen up, and let myself be open to having sex, I used to need a few drinks or maybe some other inebriants. I didn’t really connect with myself, let alone my partner. It was like this until I figured out some very important and powerful tools.

How many of you would like to have confidence, deeper connection, and presence in your sex life? What about without having to have a few drinks to loosen up?

When people who usually use substances are sober, they can feel vulnerable and inhibited. They’re stuck in their head so much they can’t enjoy their experiences and truly be present. What they really want is to feel confident, have fun passionate sex, and develop a deeper connection in their relationships. 

They want to be accepted for who they are.

I am Stacie Ysidro and I am a sex and recovery coach. I help people have fulfilling sex and relationships without the use drugs or alcohol to loosen up. For over 10 years I have accumulated over 10,000 hours of sex education, sexuality coach mastery, and sexual experience. I have studied tantra, sexology, BDSM, and the Erotic Blueprints™. I am acknowledged by the world association of sex coaches and by Jaiya, an internationally recognized sex expert, author of multiple best-selling books and speaker for thought leaders like Tony Robbins, Esther Perel, and Mama Gena as an Erotic Blueprint(™) Coach.

Sex was not always conscious and honoring for me. In fact, it was unconscious and unspoken. It was about power, manipulation and control. It was about feeling needed, seeking validation, and people pleasing others through sex. I was often seeking outside of myself, and it usually involved alcohol.

Not using alcohol, I felt like I was a virgin all over again!  I felt vulnerable, out of control, insecure… and that was scary! Can you relate?

Today I experience sexuality with confidence, consciousness, and with empowerment! Free of shame or guilt, free from fears of rejection or anxiety. Who doesn’t want that?

If you would like to learn more about recovering your sex life with sober sex, contact me today! Together we will work on helping you find your voice again, and get you out of those negative feelings. Fill out the form here to learn more.